The Future You, part 3: Shelter

This is the third in a series of articles on information and strategies that you'll need to know in your quest for freedom from an abusive partner.

    It occurs to me that this topic is interchangeable with my last article- Part 2: Calling the Hotline. In reality, all of the topics this series will cover are the "first step", depending on the situation. For someone fleeing domestic violence, there isn't a "correct" first step- only that there is a first step.

Coming to Sojourn Shelter & Services for safety might be the first step. In that light, here's what you can expect:

1. Safety

Above everything else, a shelter should provide physical and emotional safety. Survivors often arrive after living with unpredictability, fear, or control. Sojourn is a place where you can finally exhale and know that your safety is the priority. From a state-of-the-art security system to quick response from law enforcement, we have your back.

2. Respect and dignity

People coming to shelter have experienced enough judgment and criticism. You should expect to, and will be, treated with respect, regardless of your circumstances, decisions, finances, or how you arrived at this moment.

3. Support without pressure

Residents should expect advocates who will help them explore options and make plans, not tell them what decisions to make. Every survivor's timeline and circumstances are different. Our crisis managers and advocates are experienced guides through this process.

4. Practical help

Our shelter is more than a safe place to sleep. Residents should expect assistance with things such as:

• Safety planning

• Orders of protection

• Court advocacy

• Housing resources

• Employment resources

• Transportation assistance

• Counseling and support groups

• Children's services

• Community referrals

The goal is not simply shelter, but stability and a path forward.

5. A sense of normalcy and community

Domestic violence often isolates people from friends, family, and community. Sojourn offers opportunities to rebuild connection through shared meals, children's activities, support groups, and simply being around people who understand.

6. Hope and a path forward

Most people arrive carrying fear, uncertainty, and questions about the future. They should leave knowing that what happened to them does not define the rest of their lives and that they have support as they move toward whatever comes next.

When you come to Sojourn, you can expect safety, compassion, and support. You will be welcomed with dignity and respect and connected with advocates who will help you explore your options and work toward your goals. Whether you stay for a few days or longer, our team is here to help you- and your children, if you have children- find stability, healing, and hope for the future.